Feminist not Man-Hater: Feminism and the War
When dealing with feminism one must understand that like every movement, this phenomenon is prone to human interpretation which has caused its representation to vary along the lines of individual differences. Thus leading to the establishment of various theories and principles which have been upheld as the feminist agenda.
But nowhere along these lines thorough my research has the notion of men-hatred been the order of the day. Feminism is a war on Patriarchy and misogamy which paraphrase as the oppression of women by a society doctored to uphold 'masculinity'. Feminism came into existence to create equality, similar to the notion of egalitarian, but only focusing on sex (not religion or race) as a prerequisite.
The feminist movement was set to uplift women from a society which views women as second or inferior to men, proving that the ascribed gender (and to some extent sex) roles are as a result of society. And since society is dynamic, it is subject to change, gender/sex roles which may have been upheld long ago do not fit in to the modernity of our society.
The decision to hate men is simply a personal one, there are feminist theories which prove the confinement of men by patriarchy and cases where men bulk from the pressure 'masculinity' entails. But feminism is not a love affair with men either.
The feminist movement is to fight against a system so deeply woven into the fibres of society that its presence has become the norm; a notion supported by men and women alike. There is nothing in the feminist agenda which goes against the attraction of men to women and women to men, but there are questions raised about the means of sexual conduct, which has glorified the submission of women to men to be attractive.
When threading along this line, society is then forced into a corner, because a woman who goes against the normal sexual roles must want to be a man, and have attributes of a man and in return hate men, because she is not a man, hence she is angry and bitter.
But who ascribed certain words and roles to a 'sex' in the first place and why must they be so steep that a diversion from them is enough to throw off and turn society upside down?
The problem lies in the principles of Patriarchy, which are Power and Domination. In the system of patriarchy, there always has to be someone dominating 'Alpha Male' whether it is man dominating man or man dominating woman, and the fear of domination is a major kick against women.
A man once said 'I know that there is the oppression of women, but what makes you so sure women would not do the same thing if they were in the same position or if they have the same power?' that is it. A mentality which has to go, the fear of domination.
In reality most people do not know they have this fear until they start thinking about the problems patriarchy has normalised and feminism tries to eradicate, then they begin to question the institutions of the society and as a solution to make themselves feel better attribute everything to nature.
Questions such as inequality in responsibilities. Women are resigned to be more frail, while men are supposed to be more powerful and strong. The concept of a strong woman sometimes scares men. Why? Because this kicks against the main idea of patriarchy and domination.
The main goal of feminism is not to hate men, it is not the be like men, but to exist as women. It is focusing of women and how to imbibe a sense of independence as a human in line with responsibility (not a sense of entitlement) for women to be active members of a society which does not glorify its interpretation of 'masculinity' over 'femininity'
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